Mind Tricks for the Healthy Entrepreneuress

How to stay sane in an insane business world

Stories of insanely successful business women are abound. But it’s the road kill – all those women who crashed and burned that also intrigue Suzi Lala, the author of The Motherhood Evolution. Lula, who has been a counselor for 18 years and recently expanded her business as a speaker, workshop leader and author, is obsessed with the field of human transformation and how mother’s in particular can thrive.
“What I figured out after talking with and counseling so many women – especially mothers – is that women are too often out of balance. That’s what gets in the way of their goals,” says Lula. The problem boils down to a lie women tell themselves - working harder and sacrificing more pays off. Lula says it rarely does. Too many women try to do it all and be everything to everyone. The result is exhaustion, burn out and unhappiness.
“What's helped me in my journey more than anything else is to have the courage to say ‘I’m done for the day’ and then go do something that really replenishes me; not something for my family or my business, but something small that makes me happy,” says Lula.
While going out to dinner with a girlfriend is one of Lula’s favorite replenishments, she also likes taking a yoga class, buying fresh flowers for her house (an instant pick-me-up), and rocking out to music while she cooks. Lula says that “these treating yourself to tiny treats every day work like a mind trick - they keep you focused on your intrinsic worth regardless of what’s going on in life.
“Women are brought up to think that our value and worth comes through how successful we are or how successful our kids are. The trick is that you have to know that you’re deserving regardless of anything. Your business will go up and down, and that’s the nature of business. But your self-esteem shouldn’t waiver in the process.  
Women who treat themselves with kindness, respect and plenty of replenishment conquer goals because they don’t question their worth. “Success comes when you create a lifestyle and attitude that’s grounded in self-worth, which breeds stability. Someone who stays centered even when the waves come has the best chance at truly becoming the captain of her own ship,” says Lula.

Victoria Clayton is a Southern California-based writer who has contributed to TheAtlantic.com, The Los Angeles Times, Redbook, Self and many other publications. She was a health and parenting columnist for MSNBC.com.  She’s a wife, mom, small business owner, intrepid cook and yoga lover. 



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